Am I Codependent?

By: Ira Kurylenko
Created: 9 months ago
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Codependency is a complex psychological state where individuals depend on other people for validation, self-worth, and emotional fulfilment. Often, codependent people prioritize the needs of others over their own. As a result, they struggle to establish healthy boundaries and are encouraging and developing dysfunctional relationships. 
Unfortunately, the loss of personal identity and low self-esteem go hand-in-hand with codependency being precursors and effects of codependency. It does manifest in different relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and family.
Codependent people are stuck in a never-ending cycle of seeking external approval while neglecting their own emotional well-being.

What Is Codependency?

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Many people do have a faulty grasp on the notion of codependency. For many, it’s limited to being a characteristic of an unhealthy relationship in a couple, often marriage. However, that is not the full scale of it. 
Codependency is not limited by romantic relationships. It encompasses dysfunctional bonds with society, friends, and family. The letter is a crucial influence on a personality in its development stages. Statistics show that codependent people do have some domestic issues in their childhood. The pattern is not limited by childhood trauma and such but it greatly increases the chances of a child adopting codependency traits. 

What Are the Signs of Codependency?

There are several clear signs that you can track in yourself without professional help. Often, it becomes the first to treat an issue. If you do know you have something to fix, you are more likely to notice codependency patterns. 
Saying "no" becomes a challenging task. You may perceive yourself as considerate, unaware of potential codependency traits. Society does encourage selflessness and a caring attitude without distinguishing the healthy norms from codependency. 
This test aims to highlight the common traits used in psychology and offers a new perspective on your personality and its primary characteristics.
Thus, if and when you do notice these types of behaviors in yourself, you can try changing your outlook. Being mindful is the least bit of self-help we encourage. Ultimately, only professional therapy can help you change. It will take time and effort to finally start building healthy and functional relations. This is a lifetime commitment and it can start right here in this quiz. 

Codependency VS Independency

How to become more independent than? How to build healthy responses and improve your self-esteem from within, without the validation of others? 
  • self-reflect 
  • set boundaries 
  • learn to say no politely 
  • highlight your strengths 
  • practice self-care 
  • think of yourself first 
  • get professional support 
  • take your time
Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day! When it comes to changing habitual patterns that lay deep inside our cognition is never fast and easy. The changes have you be gradual, small, and consistent. It can take a lot of time to eliminate all codependency habits but the improved quality of life is definitely worth the effort. 
For now, start with this short 20-question quiz to see whether you have an issue with codependency or if you are just a kind person who does think of others as well as of yourself. 

Am I Codependent? Questions

codependency test If you fancy someone, will you make the first step?
  • sure, why not?

  • more like the first hint, I'll subtly let them know I'm interested

  • not, I'm afraid of rejection

  • I'm clever, I'll set up some "not so obvious" date in secret

codependency test How often do you find yourself making excuses for other people's negative behavior?
  • rarely, I hold them accountable

  • often, I'm too kind to people

  • sometimes, depending on the situation

  • I'm actually an expert in making excuses for people!

codependency test When someone you care about is upset, how do you typically react?
  • I feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to respond

  • I listen and offer support

  • I feel their emotions deep and become anxious

  • I immediately try to fix their problem

codependency test Where does your self-esteem come from?
  • I gain it form within

  • form others' approval

codependency test How guilty do you feel when you prioritize your own needs over others?
  • not much and rarely; I prioritize my needs

  • quite guilty and often

  • sometimes, it depends on the situation

  • I don't know how to evaluate my guilt

codependency test What's most important in a relationship besides love?
  • trust

  • loyalty

  • empathy

  • support

codependency test Why do you usually help and support others?
  • I genuinely want to help

  • I seeks gratitude and approval

  • I want to make a real impact

  • I feel obligated

codependency test What about when you need help? Do you accept it easily?
  • yes

  • no

codependency test How do you cope with feelings of loneliness?
  • I don't feel lonely

  • I just try to enjoy my lonely time

  • I'll find somebody to talk to, even a stranger

  • I just stay depressed

codependency test Do you feel shame often?
  • yes

  • no

codependency test How do you handle conflicts?
  • I prefer to avoid conflicts altogether

  • I always give in first

  • I try set up open communication

  • I just run away as fast as I can

codependency test How do you respond to compliments?
  • I accept them with tanks

  • I feel uncomfortable and don't know how to respond

  • I diminish them

  • I'll just compliment the person as well

codependency test Do you like to think of yourself as a warm, kind, and supportive person?
  • yes, that's my best trait

  • yes, but it's only one of my many good traits

  • no, that's not who I am

  • I am kind but I don't being reminded of it

codependency test Do you often feel exhausted or emotionally drained after interacting with certain people in your life?
  • yes, all the time

  • rather often, I'm introverted

  • only with a couple of people after I hang out with them for long

  • not really

codependency test Do you like being alone in-between relationships?
  • yes, I enjoy this time (better than a crappy relationship anyway)

  • yep, but just for a short bit

  • i don't enjoy it but it's manageable

  • no, I hate being alone

codependency test In your usual romantic relationships, who usually takes the leading role?
  • I do

  • my partner does

  • it changes, more like equally

  • I haven't had a serious relationship yet

codependency test How often do you find yourself saying "yes" to things you don't want to do?
  • all the time

  • sometimes, mostly it's with people close to me

  • not that often; I prioritize

  • I don't say "yes" if I don't want to

codependency test How high is your self-esteem from 1 to 5? (5 being high)
  • 1-2

  • 3

  • 4

  • 5

codependency test If you had to cancel your plans to go help your partner, would you?
  • without a doubt

  • sure but only if it's urgent and important

  • nope. unless, they are dying, they'll have to wait

  • I need more variables for that decision!

codependency test On a bright sunny day, you ...
  • are always happy

  • enjoy my hobbies

  • hang out with friends

  • daydream

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